By Carolyn Rim
February 1st, 2017
Note: You may feel uncomfortable reading this, I want to gently remind you that this is a positive signal meaning change is coming or needs to come. In fact... the greater the discomfort... the greater the change coming.... I encourage you to mark the one you like the least, choose the worst of the worst and put in the chat. The first step to self love is vulnerability and getting real. Dive in ....
Deep breathe in. Read on Rockstars...
7 Clues You Don't Love Yourself Enough
#1 You constantly put others first.
You find yourself pushing to do just a little more of what you do not want to be doing, and then a little more after that.
#2 You are very critical of others.
When we are in judgement of others really we are just judging something within us. When you judge someone else you are really just judging yourself.
#3 You are extremely critical of your decisions.
You question everything, such as your behavior, others behavior and generally you can't receive compliments even if someone tries to give you one. You have kind things to say about others but not yourself.
#4 You scratch or pick at your skin or scalp.
This is a manifestation that is happening because you are refusing to take a look at something inside so it's manifesting outwardly to try to get your attention.
#5 You don't listen to your body.
You put off eating, urinating, and other important needs when your body is telling you it needs something... you consistently don't listen.
#6 You are consistently late for things.
You are consistently late for things and do give yourself enough time to get their. You do not allow yourself space to make mistakes and are constantly grabbing the bat for a little verbal beating within. You beat yourself up when late and play the victim saying you are not enough and keep wondering why you keep doing the same shit over and over again.
#7 You are driven by what others will think of you.
You make your decisions not based on your likes or dislikes, not based on your needs and desires but on the hope of gaining someone else's approval or attention.
Okay ... NOW WHAT Carolyn?! How Can I stop self sabotaging and start loving myself?
I got you.
The following is for people who struggle most with number 5 especially and it's a great example for the others too:
•How long do you go with an annoying problems on your body without going to the doctors?
•How long do you put up with that drip in the sink, or the rug you keep tripping on, or housework that needs to be done but you keep putting off?
•Still wearing the pants that hardly fit you? Or struggling in the dark Bc of that same broken light you haven't fixed?
Listen those who give themselves little... have very little to give others and of course their own lives are more difficult too. The first step to loving yourself means understanding and realizing that self care is not something extra, not something for when you have time, it is an absolute most and vital to your health!
Follow this guide to start walking down Love Yourself Lane!
#1 Start by letting any lack of self care be ok.
Not something else you make yourself feel bad about. A universal truth that helps me is that I tell myself I am always doing the very best I can right now.
#2 Give yourself permission to feel uncomfortable.
I know this is gonna sound strange but stepping up and giving yourself self care and self love can feel slightly irritating and almost painful. You can make these uncomfortable feelings pass quicker by not resisting them but instead embracing the shit out of them. Hugging them and facing it head on and giving yourself to feel whatever emotion that comes up flow through you.
#3 Choose to work on one at a time.
When I first starting this process... I was doing many things that were not being nice to myself. So I just started with number 1. I started taking care of me. I started eating healthy. I then started on giving myself space to make mistakes and to f up. Lol Fucking up is actually a good thing because your last mistake or failure is actually your greatest lesson if you are willing to look at it. So allow yourself some space to scream! To go crazy! Allow yourself space to be your crazy beautiful ridiculously amazing awesome self.
#4 Start removing people who are critical of you or drastically reduce your time with them.
You love yourself remember and you deserve to have the space to be your incredibly awesome self. You are your own worst critic and you don't need anyone else on the outside jumping on the beating yourself up wagon! Kick them off and then take control of that mother fer and stop it dead in its tracks. Then, go get a pedicure or massage after that. lol
#5 Celebrate when you speak your souls truth and follow your hearts guidance!
Celebrate when you practice self love! Shake your ass and reward yourself!
#6 Stop beating yourself up for past mistakes!
Guess what folks? If you are living in the past and constantly reviewing all your past mistakes how do you think you are gonna feel? Yup.... not so hot and fluffy. But if you start reviewing times you succeeded and times when you were proud of yourself then you will consciously program yourself to focus on your strengths and start loving yourself and seeing the good in you. This will build health confidence too.
#7 Meditate. Oh baby. If you only could experience some of the benefits...
wait a second you can!
You just have to meditate daily and consistently. I love doing the chakra meditation from Oneness University but you have to find what works for you. I have created a 99 Day Meditation Dare that takes the guessing out of it. You can click here to check it out! www.SparkYourRockstar.com
So...Tell me ... Do you love yourself? How do you show yourself love? In What ways do you self sabotage?
Rockstars most of all... be kind to yourself. Show compassion and love for yourself! I love you! Oxox
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