Do you have a mentor??? Yes or no? You need a mentor that already has What you want! Then model their behavior and ask the right questions!
Top 6 Reasons YOU Need a Mentor TO SUCCEED!
Mentors are critical to your success in all areas of life. Some people prefer the title of counselor, consultant, coach, or guide, but all share the commonality of being experienced and trusted advisors. We start life depending on the guidance of parents and caregivers, which then evolves to teachers and coaches. Those individuals prepare us for life, and yet at some point many of us feel like we no longer need guidance. Maybe we think we have learned all there is to know and now we are supposed to be strong and independent. Maybe it is because all of those mentors along the way were put into our lives and we don't know how to seek them out. Maybe we expect the leaders within our company to fill that role. How we came to believe any or all of these ideas is less important than the awakening that the the truly great seek out mentors and constant improvement.
A simple example is that CEOs do not have just one mentor, they generally create entire board of directors to help steer their and the company's success. All Olympic athletes have coaches. At a reported net worth of $480 million self help guru, Tony Robbins, surrounds himself with mentors and coaches to hone and improve continuously.
BENEFIT #1 A Mentor holds you ACCOUNTABLE and keeps you on track
I'm sure we've all been there, that overwhelmed feeling, knowing exactly what we want to accomplish but no idea how to get there. When you find the right mentor, who has achieved your desired goal, they have the experience to keep you on track with the work that will truly move the needle. A good mentor will help you outline the path to what you define as success, and knowing someone will check on your progress helps you get it done!
BENEFIT #2 A Mentor will ELEVATE YOUR GOALS
We all start in different places, but the personal relationship with a mentor will help them understand where you are and how to push you to the next level. Mentors are able to draw out the potential inside of you and, like a mirror, reflect it back.
I remember going through a difficult time and I started to compare myself with others. I kept telling my mentors I want to be where you are now and I was getting very frustrated. I will never forget what my mentor, Joseph McClendon said to me “Stop comparing my chapter 20 to your chapter 3.” I will never forget another teacher of mine, Sifu Terryann DeAngeles saying “Comparing can only lead to two things, 1) An expanded ego. Or 2) You make yourself feel less than.” Comparing does not serve your evolution. The only person you should compare yourself with is the person that stares back at you in the mirror everyday. Now I enjoy the journey :) I am not in a rush to get to chapter 20. I am enjoying my chapter 3 and I don’t want to be anything other than the best version of me.
BENEFIT #3 Their soul purpose is to SUPPORT YOU without prejudgment, baggage, bias
I believe this is one of the most under discussed benefits of a working with a mentor. They want you to be successful, but what they don't tend to do is bring their own baggage to the table. Have you ever gone home to your family or coworkers with a new goal or idea, only to have them shoot it down, remind you of all your other failed attempts? That feeling of being so small creeps in. Like nothing you do is enough. Like all your passion and knowledge in the world is worthless.
A mentors reaction will likely be to encourage you to craft that idea. Tell you to see it all the way through in brainstorming, have you prove or disprove it. They will test your passion and competency for the idea, but they should never just dismiss it. A trusted mentor with the insight to keep you on track for your goals, who cares enough to hold you accountable, and challenges you to be even better all without bringing negative bias to the interaction is invaluable.
BENEFIT #4 A Mentor Believes In You More Than You Believe In Yourself
I will never forget when I was doing an event in 2015 I called Joseph McClendon and I told him I was stuck and I didn't believe I could do it. I was really beating myself up. He was very kind to me and said, "Kid, there is a time when you have to feel it. Then there is a time when you have to break out of the web of your own bullshit. Now, I believe in you and I believe that you can definitely get people to your event but until you believe it, I can tell you others will struggle to believe it too." I felt so motivated and inspired after that call I sold 10 tickets! He made me see my strengths not my weakness's.
Ultimately a mentor is someone who believes in you more than you believe in yourself. This belief helps encourage you to have the confidence to do things that you might not otherwise do. As Henry Ford of motor car fame said, “Whether you think you can or whether you think you can’t you are probably right." The power of the belief others have in you, and consequently you have in yourself transforms your prospects, circumstances and achievements. You cannot afford to be without a mentor who believes in you.
BENEFIT #5 A MENTOR IS THERE WHEN YOU NEED THEM AND GIVE GREAT ADVICE
Then one time I could not stop obsessing about my ex and he gave me the best advice ever! If had been a year since my ex husband left me but I was still stuck in the rinse and repeat cycle of my own stories and bullshit. Joseph said, "Carolyn hurry up hurry up go get a pen!" I ran and got a pen. He said, "Are you ready? Get the F*%$ over it!" I wrote that done too! I was laughing and celebrating by the end of the call with him. He always gives me advice that helps me see my way out of the dark. He told me to start celebrating my divorce! I never heard of anything like that! I always feel better after speaking with him. He always makes me feel like a better human being.
BENEFIT #6 A MENTOR HELPS YOU ELEVATE BY GIVING YOU A BONE HERE AND THERE
My mentor Joseph has helped me so much. Back in UPW NJ when I didn't have a ticket, he was the one who made sure I got a Tony Robbins special blue friends and family section neckless. In fact a few days ago, I gave a completely free ticket to Tony Robbins to one of my mentees because I am a firm believer in paying it forward!
Mentors are by far one of the top reasons I have succeeded! Without outstanding teachers, you can not realistically expect outstanding results. Choose them wisely and make sure if at time you feel like something off or doesn't feel right.. you move on. I have moved on from some teachers. Remember some teachers are only there for a short time so be grateful for the lessons, thank them and then hit the road jack!
So put in the comments who your mentor is!! Don’t have one yet? Start looking! Who do you want to be your mentor and why? JUST GO FOR IT! NO MATTER WHO IT IS! NO MATTER HOW BIG YOU THINK THEY ARE… ASK FOR WHAT YOU WANT MY FRIENDS! If you don't ask the answer will always be no anyway so you may as well ask for what you want!
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