 Where I was... •Broke 🥺 •Toxic marriage😩 •Super unhappy with my job doing the same thing over and over and over again. 🤬Think Groundhog Day on repeat. •Wanted to kill myself because I didn’t think I deserved to live 😥 •Hated myself and who I had become 😭 •Constant judgement for the world around me. 🙄 My reality NOW... 😍🙌🏻🙏🏻 My friends family and clients... call me a few things. Rockstar... unicorn.... but the most I get called is Manifestation Queen 👸 I have manifested my dream life. I manifested my soulmate and we have the most delicious juicy relationship (I promise for those who are thinking that “the one” doesn’t exist and are just settling.... PLEASE LISTEN to your heart and soul... the right one is out there if you are willing to live with uncertainty for a bit!🧐🤩Someone once said we live in known hells and resist unknown heavens simply because we are afraid of the unknown!) What I had to do to have the above (and below lol 😂 that’s what she said) ... •Husband left me (we went on and off for 3 years because I was so scared to be alone) •Went through a divorce 😞 •live with massive uncertainty😲 •Moved into my sisters basement with my daughter🤭 •Listen to my soul when it was called to go to an event and not worry about the money (if you really want to make it happen you will... if you don’t you will find an excuse) •Had to trust that God had something better for me WHERE I AM AT NOW.... ***Created and manifested a million dollar business ***HOLD SOLD OUT EVENTS AND SPEAK ALL OVER THE WORLD ***BECAME A BEST SELLING AUTHOR ***MANIFESTED MY SOULMATE who is one of the top healers in the world (I wrote that on my list lol) Jason Ozuna ***EPIC RELATIONSHIP WITH MY FAMILY AND DAUGHTER ***FREEDOM TO DO WHAT I WEANT, WHEN I WANT, WITH WHOM I WANT! ***CREATED AN INNER CIRCLE WITH 150 ROCKSTARS all over the world which is led by me and Mentored by Joseph McClendon What I had to do to get that: •Quit my job •Went into 50k worth of debt 5 years ago •Almost lost my house 🏡 (2 times) •Deal with massive uncertainty •Deal with my wound of not feeling like I deserve to live unless I helped people •Put out 18 offers and only 4 of them succeeded... that’s 14 times people said NO and only 4 times that they said YES •Had to deal with rejection, disappointment and failure •Spend over $300k in coaches and masterminds ( I would invest most of the money I made from my successful courses and events back into me- that has paid off 💯- made all the money back and live my dreams now fully abundant) •Grow my soul and heal deep trauma from my past •Trust in God’s timing and not my own I started thinking how literally anyone can become a manifestation king or queen. They just needed the right formula. What is the number one secret to manifesting anything you want? To hold the vibration of abundance and joy even when it doesn’t happen right away. Faith baby! Here is what happens to most people. They start to meditate and visualize a bit. They start thinking 10% more positive thoughts a day. They start seeing some signs and get really excited... and then it becomes still for awhile and they say this is bs and doesn’t work. Then they see everyone else succeeding and manifesting and then they get resentful and unhappy. So they finally give up on their dreams left scratching their heads like “I tried it all and it didn’t work.” 🤷♀️And for the rest of their lives ... they live in massive certainty because that’s easier than going through the pain of failing.... or so they think and no one lives happily ever after. 🤦🏻♀️ Guess what? That’s when you need to have FAITH most of all that all your manifestations are coming towards you. When it gets hard, when everything is crumbling. Imagine if we got what we wanted right away how deeply unfulfilling that would be. We need to heal. 🙌🏻 That is another key to making your dreams come true is to heal your past. That’s the road to joy. To allow everything that is triggering you to be a blessing instead of a curse. And guess what else? You can smile even through the bullshit. Did you know JOY is a high vibration? Did you also know children smile 400 times a day... and the average adult smiles only 12 to 15 times a day!? Holy shift! What happened?! 🤨 So recap on this whole post and what you can take away from it and apply to your life: #1 HAVE FAITH ✨ When you start your manifesting journey (whether you are advanced or beginner) you will have times when you think you are doing everything right but it’s not happening fast enough. Trust in God’s timing ... not your timing. You have to send out gratitude like it’s already happened. Think about it... why do you want what you want? Because of the feeling you think it will bring you. What if you could access that feeling right now?! Do you know how powerful that vibration is? Walking around like you already won the game of life and being more present with people than ever before! Sigh of relief. You don’t have to worry anymore. Everything is gonna work out. I promise! Even if it’s hard to see now.. you will see why it happened this way one day and it will all make sense.... in the mean time have faith it’s all happening FOR YOU. #2 HEAL YOUR PAST🥀 When people are triggering you... it’s happening FOR you. Do not write it off as it’s all them. It’s for you. When you get really angry or upset it’s because a part of you believes what the other person is saying is true and it triggers that wound. With that said... you just have to accept that part of you. It’s not all of you. It’s just a part. And when you get with it ... it doesn’t have to unconsciously run you. Whatever you resist will persist. #3 SMILE THROUGH THE PAIN🌝 We are only here for a little while. I know it’s hard at times. I heard a healer say once that when you hold something and say “this is serious” you hold it in a energy neutral place. You hold it rigidly in a place where there can not be any change. Smile more. Look at things in a playful way. We are here in this lifetime for only a little while. Bring levity to the situations you are in right now and magic will happen. They will all of sudden be flexible and you will have more energy to process and see the gifts in them. ***There is so much more I would like to share with you... but this is all for now. Take these 3 tools and my own experience- apply it to your life... and my promise is... that a shift will happen. And tiny shifts in our thinking create mammoth shifts in our reality. 🦄 Sending you hugs, high fives and pattern breaking a** slaps, Carolyn Rim www.SparkYourRockstar.com Email [email protected] Ps CLICK HERE if you want to apply to join 140 people manifesting their dreams coming true together. Pss Just in case no one told you yet today...I love you 😘   I want to share some things that have been happening with me lately. I have been feeling so👨⚖️ judged by others. I have not even posted in about week because of it. So much magic has happened the past few days but I didn’t share any of it because I didn’t want people to think I was bragging or knew it all. I started to wonder if people would judge me posting pictures of my fiancé and I. All people see is a happy soulful couple. They don’t see all the hard work that went into creating the love and connection we have. I let my mind make me it’s bitch instead of making it a humble servant to my soul. 5 years ago ... I said F it and just started being myself and sharing my heart and soul.
 Okay. I can't hold out an longer. That's what she said... No but seriously. I have to tell the world.
This is my future husband and I want to have his babies. I know. I know. I am just as surprised as all of you right now. If you would have told me 2 weeks ago... that I would meet my soulmate, and have a burning desire to have his children... I would have told you to literally f*ck off. My heart has been soooooo closed to any type of intimate relationship. I didn't believe in soulmates. I believed in dreams coming true but didn't know if a man was in my cards ♥️ this lifetime. Recently I shared with you all, that I had been sleeping with my ex husband for the past 3 years. It was easy for me to close my heart and keep him far away while still getting my needs met. Super easy for me to help you all have transformation while kind of just closing the door in that area of my heart. With that said, two Tuesday nights ago I had such a strong desire to attended Ultimatum with Donny Epstein ... I had heard about him through my partner John Amaral who I do Events with. Darius Vega and Anne Laborde were going to the event and I felt so pulled to go. They kept asking if I was going. I get chills now thinking about if I had not listened to that calling or that pull I would not have met my soulmate. So I ask where is life calling you that you may not be listening to and listing all the reasons why it's not possible? My mind did the same thing at first... (which is why I waited until 2 days before the event took place to make the decision to go). I had so much resistance I even only planned on going for only 3 days and not the 6 days. Instead of listing all the reasons why it wasn't possible to at least go though and trust me there were plenty... (in the middle of the 99 Day Dare launch, what I would do with my daughter, and my clients, etc)... but then I just said YES to that hunger and calling to have, be and become MORE. I said yes to my SOUL and to allowing God to weave me the greatest grandest love story of all time. Say YES... I attended Ultimatum with about 40 plus incredible souls. I am a completely different person than I was going in. My life was completely ripped apart in the most beautiful, raw and real ways I could ever imagine. Everything I have been struggling to make happen effortlessly has come together. I want to share my story of how I was able to OPEN my heart. I will do my best to tell you this story even though words can not dare touch the real experience. I am from the future and on my first night at Ultimatum.... before we begin.... please keep an open mind ok? This shift is gonna sound freaking crazy.... but I would bet my entire existence that it actually happened. It was not a dream. And off off off away we go rockstars... My first session at Ultimatum I was on the table and then all of sudden was being ripped through this white tunnel. I could feel the velvety soft whiteness as I dug my fingers in the white space. Then it stopped at a moment my father was 2 years old. Him and his brother were on the floor. They felt so sad because something bad was happening to them. I picked my dad up. I told him I was from the future and I was his daughter. And he smiled a grin so big. I hugged him and then was ripped from that space almost like a vacuum sucking me back into the time warp. Then I saw my dads twin brother Frankie, who killed himself in my dads garage when he was 18, standing there in my dads garage still. His soul was stuck it looked like. He has been stuck for years. I moved out of the garage and stood in the yard calling his name and asking him to come out. I said, "I see the gift in your death and you are released. You are free. Fly home." Frankie got the most liberating smile on his face and all of sudden he had all this light around him and he shot up from the ground and into the sky. I was then ripped back into the time portal. I was pulled with incredible force back 100's of years. I blessed my birth. My mothers birth. I went back and played with my mom as she was a girl and loved her in moments she may have not felt like she was enough. Then I was put back in white space and I saw a wound so large and heard my ancestors crying. The weaver (God) came through me and started humming the most vibrational sweet tune through me... as the weaver hummed ... the crying started to stop and all the ancestors stared at me. The continued hum came through as my creator continued to stream through me and gently grab a needle and thread and with the most gentle precision and care... started to sew the wounds of my ancestors. When the sewing was complete ... my energy was shifted. I felt my pelvis area warming and just completely opening and my heart ❤️ opening and expanding at new heights and levels. My grandmothers arms were wrapped around me. Then I felt hugged by all my ancestors who were so grateful to be released. Then two angels came and I felt completely held up by them. God came out through me and looked at me. It looked like an enormous swirling eye with all of these spider webs and soul threads and I could see that the weaver was connected with everything and everyone. Then I was instantly pulled back into the room with every at Ultimatum but the room looked a little different ... like I had went forward in time. I felt different. For the first time ever... I saw my soulmate... he was gorgeous and he came walking across the room to me as tears were streaming down my face and we were so happy. He grabbed me and hugged my soul for a long time. He was so proud of me for what I just did. I felt myself relax into his arms. Then I was carried off the table and my session was over. I was unconscious for a while still processing all the magic that just took place. I had no idea that my soulmate was actually in the room. I thought it meant I would meet him sometime in the future... not that his soul was right next to me. Over the next few days every session just got more intense... I had planned only being there for 3 days but once I got there I couldn't leave. I made the impossible possible and I ended up staying. I saw everything. My future husband and our baby. I saw it all. Over the next few days the synchronicities were so strong that Jason Ozuna and I had to laugh at most of them. I felt pulled to him but not until the 3rd day. I kept thinking about him and didn't know why but was in total resistance to how I felt about him. It's funny the moment I saw him, God said, "That is your future husband." I laughed and told God that he wasn't my type. Needs to be a Network doc. I have in my Definite Major purpose statement that I meet a Network Chiropractor and we change the world together. While at the event ... I joked with God (we talk often lol 😂 no but really though 😳) and said, "Single network chiropractors don't just fall from the sky, do they?" The next day I was at lunch with the pods (pods= people in groups... I know pods sound so much cooler) and I heard Jason Ozuna sharing that he was a Network chiropractor. I nearly flipped the whole table on its side and said, "Are you fucking kidding me?" I then proceeded with grace to throw my napkin on the ground 😂lol yup... and storm out of the restaurant to get some air. I looked up at the sky and said, "Seriously?" When I walked back in the restaurant and everyone said, "Why did you just do that?" I just explained I was from the future and I could not tell them yet. Later that day I couldn't stop thinking about him. I couldn't deny the way my heart felt so intertwined with his already but I still was in resistance. I remember after lunch walking to the elevator and asking God, "Could he be the one?" As the elevator doors opened ... guess who was standing solo in it? Jason Mofo Ozuna. (For new readers: Mofo = Mother F*cking) We both just started cracking up. He said, "I was just thinking about you." And I said, "Yes I was as well. Can we take a moment to be grateful for how amazing the weaver is when we allow it into our lives?" We both smiled at each other and shook our heads. When we walked into the room, someone stole my chair ... and can you guess who had a spot open up right next to him? Jason Mofo Ozuna. Guess who ended up on the table next to me that night? Jason Mofo Ozuna. After the session we were sitting next to each other and he pulled me into him... and said he loved my energy. When he touched me I knew. I knew he was my soulmate and I have known him 1000 years and I have searched for him for 33 fuckin years and We finally found each other. Well... I am assuming you kids can figure out what happened next... lol I mean, you try waiting 33 years to find your soulmate and then tell me what you want to do with them when you meet them! 😂🙌🏻♥️☝️🦄🌈😳🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥 Hot like Mofo fire. Okay since I am so brutally honest here... let's get real... I had more sex in the past 3 days with Jason than I have had in the past 3 years. For the first time in 33 years... I had sex without guilt and fudge that shift feels so good! Oh and I experienced my first soulgasim. This is when my heart saw my future daughter with Jason. She was so beautiful. My soul threads were connected with his heart and I knew that we were soulmates. Destined to be together. Us being together actually helps the energy field around us. Isn't that freaking amazing? Breathe in deep... this is just the tip of the mofo iceberg. This is just letting you in on a FRACTION of what happened. I didn't even get to the part where I was being conceived and I was just an angel sprinkling the pixie dust of my soul style all around the room where I was being conceived: I am a magical rockstar unicorn visionary who inspires instant transformation, love and self acceptance for all. When I shine the light of my heart it becomes a rippling wave of energy awakening hearts across the world to help them remember who they really are and why they are really here. I transport people to the future to help them see their future and make their dreams come true. I am forever grateful for everyone who led me to Donny and Jackie Epstein. His work is transformational and LIFE CHANGING needless to say. BEST SELF DEVELOPMENT EVENT I HAVE EVER ATTENDED. 3 Lessons I Learned In Finding My Soulmate (These can be applied in any area of your life and you will get amazing incredible results if you apply these Lessons) #1 You have to look where you are not looking. Where are you being pulled that you are not allowing yourself to go. God has the most amazing things in store for you... whatever you are thinking .... think bigger.... TRUST ME! All you have to do is stop putting the separation in between you and God's magic. Seriously once you start allowing the weaver in... you understand just how magical shift can get and how fast things can shift. I mean in an instant your life can change... isn't that exciting? To know that no matter what has happened in the past, you can have the most joyous incredible future ever? We are only here for so long... Do not waste the gift of life on settling for less than you know you are capable of. SAY YES. #2 When Resistant, Face It Head On and It Will SHIFT Organically. I was so resistance to it all until I realized how much joy it would bring me. I faced the resistance and realized I was just scared of change in that area of my life. I didn't see another baby in my future until I met him. Once I finally stopped resisting the way I was feeling and allowed the weaver (God) to work the incredible magic in my life, the thought of having his baby never felt more "Right" in my whole life. I felt like I could see farther than I ever could before. Does the person you are with make you want to be a better you? Jason makes me want to be the best coach, mom, wife, rockstar I can be in my life. He brings out the best in me. SAY YES! #3 LISTEN TO YOUR SOUL. This is probably the biggest thing. My soul knew I had to go to Ultimatum but my mind told me I was making a mistake. It was a $6000 event after all and I had sooo many reasons and excuses on why I could not do this. BUT MY SOUL KNEW. YOUR SOUL KNOWS THE WAY! WHERE ARE YOU BEING LED OR CALLED TO BE, HAVE AND DO MORE WITH YOUR LIFE? Maybe to a Donny Epstein event yourself? Or maybe the Spark Your Rockstar event this coming October? I am so grateful I listened to my soul... so.. will you listen to yours? As always my loving rockstars... Sending you High Fives, Hugs, & Pattern Breaking Ass Slaps, Carolyn Rim Founder of Spark Your Rockstar, LLC Website: www.SparkYourRockstar.com Email: [email protected] Join the Rockstars of 1000's of people making dreams come true in the SPARK YOUR ROCKSTAR COMMUNITY: www.facebook.com/groups/sparkenergy #DreamsDoComeTrue #ThankYou #ItsAlreadyDone #SparkYourRockstar  Hi Rockstars! Omg I feel like I have not spoken in this way to you in forever! I love dancing and video blogging live so much that I forget to blog sometimes! That's what she said. I know that made no sense! Deal with it. So I wanted to ask you if you have gotten your hands on my book hot sizzling book Awakening The Heart yet? I ask because the reviews it is getting on Amazon is amazing! If you did not order it yet... here is chapter 1 and 2 to give you a little taste of my story and book! This shift will change your life and awaken your heart into action! Awakening the Heart By Carolyn Rim Copyright © 2017 Carolyn Rim Chapter 1 Taking the Leap “You don’t have to be great to start, but you have to start to be great.” —Zig Ziglar October 12, 2014 I sit in my cube, staring at the computer. I am researching bridges to jump off. I have just turned 30 and I realize how much I hate my life—okay, not just my life, I hate myself. All I seem to do is wake up, go to work, eat dinner, and sleep. Don’t get me wrong, there are a few moments that are fun and exciting but most of the time I am miserable. I do not have any big life goals—hell, I don’t have any goals. I want to die. The chatter in my mind never ceases. Constantly criticizing, contradicting and abusing me. “You’re a joke. You think you can change the world? You are nothing. YOU will be going against the whole world. You will never make it. Look at the past—all you are is a high school graduate with a bad reputation. A whore. Used goods. You are nothing.” I have a good voice and a bad voice in my mind. I cannot help but feel overwhelmed and unhappy most of the time. The bad voice was constant and the good voice tried, without success, to convince me of my inherent worth. I have been at my job for six years and I have moved up the ladder quickly. Up until about a year ago, I was the firm’s number one sales rep four years in a row, but I still feel unfulfilled and unhappy. A year and a half ago, the company took a turn for the worse and my salary went way down. I went from making $120,000 a year to $50,000 a year in seven months. I have been in a car accident and my neck injury is killing me too. I am going to the doctor every week. I smoke a pack of cigarettes a day. I eat unhealthy foods. I work out a few times per week, but my terrible eating habits and smoking cancel out my efforts to be healthy. My peers are not encouraging. Anytime I spoke about my dream to be something more than what I am, they would tell me not to do it because it’s just safer to stay where you are than to go for it and fail. People around me are not going after their dreams. When I told them about this dream I had where I was in front of thousands of people, they would tell me there was no way I could do that. I feel trapped. Stuck. How did I get here? Back to staring at the screen. The peer group and friends in my life, joke about killing themselves and although of course I don’t like that, I joke as well. We have a running joke. “Meet me at the bridge and I’ll bring the lipstick.” Talk about an unhealthy peer group. But, seriously, I would rather die than have my energy dwarfed and locked in this cube for another 10 years. All my light was trapped within the walls of this grey cube, with nowhere to expand. Hot tears stream down my face. I try desperately to mask my emotions at work. I feel like I am speaking a language that no one can understand; they just say I am weird or crazy. Then something happens. I snap. I am done. No more. Not another minute do I want to spend on this earth. I stare at the screen, unhappy, unfulfilled, unchallenged. I wait for the phone to ring. I decide I am going do it that day. I am going to kill myself. I hate myself. I decide I am going to jump off a bridge. I close my eyes and visualize leaping into the air and finally being able to spread my wings and fly. That’s always what I wanted to do. Fly. Fly into the air, soar like an eagle, even if only for a few seconds. I would feel the wind against my face and plunge to my death, away from pain. No mean voice could reach me. No taunting, horrible memories of my past could reach me. No more of this feeling like I will never be enough. I am staring at a picture of the Golden Gate Bridge. I would go out there and jump off. No one could get to me out there. I look up the stats on the bridge on how many people jumped from it. I watch the horrible videos of someone actually leaping to his death. Leaping from the bridge and hitting the water at speeds of 70mph is like hitting concrete. They stopped counting the numbers of jumpers. I think of my little girl, KK, and get tears in my eyes. I think, she is the only reason I am still alive right now. The Voice of the Heart Then I have my first conscious experience with grace, the first time I heard my heart so clearly speak to me. Call it my heart, source, God, divine intervention—whatever it was, it was all around me. I could not see it, hear it, touch it, but I felt a magnificent presence all around me. Almost as if angels were surrounding me. The world around me went into slow motion. As if my fingers were guided, I stop looking for bridges to jump from and type the name Tony Robbins into YouTube. I watch two minutes of a video of him at one of his seminars and I see the people in slow motion jumping up and down, smiling. Real smiles. Not this fake-smile peanut-butter-fluff I saw from others all day long. These people were authentically happy from within their beautiful souls. I realized at that moment that I needed to go see this man. I quickly call the number. It rings three times and then a woman answers. “Hi, thank you for calling Tony Robbins Company. My name is Kelly Phillips. How can I help you today?” I clear my throat, “Hi, my name is Carolyn Rim and I want a front row seat to see Tony Robbins. How much will that be?” “A front row Diamond Premier seat is $2,997. The next event is 12 days away and almost sold out,” she says. I hesitate and think for a moment. I don’t have $3,000. Sensing my hesitation, Kelly said, “I also have a few general admission seats available for $500.” I think about it. I could take the $500 general admission ticket however I am anything but general. I am Diamond Premier all the way. I say to Kelly, “Hold that Diamond Premier ticket. I will call you back in an hour.” I hang up the phone. I pull up my bank account online to see how much money I have. I stare at the number on the screen. $36. A measly $36. How the hell am I going to pull this off? I close my eyes for a moment. I take a long inhale in through my nose and a long exhale out through my mouth. I call my sister Marie, who had gone to an Unleash the Power Within seminar years before and said how amazing it was. She had been texting me that day to see how I am. She knows I am struggling but she also knows I am meant for greatness. I text her and tell her what I am planning to do. She texted back, all in caps, “NOW IS THE TIME. GO FOR IT, KID.” That is all I need. I don’t call my husband, who I know would talk me out of it. I don’t call anyone who will try to talk me out of going. I call the bank and took out a $5,000 loan. For the first time in my life, I am going all-in on me. A magnificent energy streams through me and my heart is racing. I have never done anything like this. A few faxes and signatures later, I have $5,000 transferred into my account. I call Kelly Phillips back within a half hour and tell her with a smile, “Book my Diamond Premier front row seat, please.” I book a flight and a suite at the Aloft hotel in Dallas. Within just a few hours, I am booked for the Unleash The Power Within event with Tony Robbins and 7,000 other souls. I inhale this beautiful feeling, as if each cell in my body and my soul is awakening. I still feel like something is missing, but in my heart I know I have taken a huge leap of faith, and that ignited something within me. Instead of leaping from the bridge, I have leapt out of my comfort zone with child-like faith into uncertainty. It is the first time in years my heart spoke to me—or maybe it was the first time in years I have listened. That night I go home and told no one but my little girl, KK. We are snuggling underneath the blankets in her bed, reading with a flashlight. I say, “Baby, Mommy has to go away by herself for a couple of days. Do you think you can take care of Daddy?” She chuckles at the thought of her taking care of her daddy. She looks at me, “But Mommy, I’m going to miss you.” I place my hand on her heart and then I say, “Remember, all you have to do is put your hand on your heart, think of me and send me love. I will get your message of love-energy, baby, and send a light beam of swirling-twirling-love around you. I love you more than all the stars in the sky and no matter where I am, I am always sending you my love, KK. Mommy has to do this, because for the first time, baby, I am allowing my heart to lead me.” KK smiles her sweet smile and says, “Okay Mommy, I will take care of Daddy while you’re gone.” We stare at each other for a moment. Looking deeply into my little girl’s eyes, I can see the whole universe in them. I instantly feel magic and love when I look at her. A few days later, I know I need to tell my husband, Mike, before my trip but I am so scared. That night, I tell him I am going away for a few days and he didn’t know what to say. “Are you still not happy?” he says. He is upset, but I explain that for me to be happy, I have to do this. He is so mad at me that he refuses to look or talk to me at all. He just is in silence staring at the floor slowly shaking his head at me. Then he says, “Fine. Go. Do what you want.” I tell my family and prepare for take-off toward my destiny. My heart is heavy and sad about Mike but I still know I am on the right road. I stop second-guessing my intuition and decide to start listening to my heart, which says go for it. October 22, 2014 It’s the day before the event and I am nervous. I am at work and have not gotten any sales all day so I am stressed, tense and irritated. I am holding back tears in my cell. My cube. This jail. My phone rings and breaks my thought pattern. “Hello,” I say, trying my best not to sound like I am on the verge of a breakdown. “Hey Carolina,” my friend says in his usual playful voice. “Hi, Joe,” I say and my voice cracks before I can even get out another word. Instantly Joe picks up on my energy and says, “Are you okay?” I tell him I am leaving tomorrow for Dallas to see Tony Robbins and I am nervous and sad and scared all at the same time. He asks me what time I will be at work until. I tell him 5 p.m. “Okay, I will see you at 3 p.m.” He hangs up before I can protest. His engagement pictures with his fiancée are today. How could he be thinking about anyone else on this day? I stop overthinking it and continue to stare at the computer screen and the phone rings. “Thanks for calling Medical Alert, this is Carolyn Rim. How may I help you?” The woman on the phone says, “What? Speak slower, won’t you? You young people talk too damn fast.” This is my life. I speak to seniors and sell the “Help, I have fallen and I can’t get up” buttons.” I have been on this call before, 1,000 times before. I feel like it’s the rinse and repeat cycle over and over again. I start to get tears in my eyes. My train of thought is interrupted by Brad Lovitz, who stands up in his cube and calls my name. “Hey Carolyn!” he says. I sit around all men except for a beautiful black woman named Faith who sits behind me, whose smile lights up the room. I stand up. Now if you’re looking at this and imagining it in your mind, think of whack-a-mole game—we all stand up in our cubes to talk and then go back down. “Hey, Brad.” I tell the few people around me I trust that I am going to a Tony Robbins seminar tomorrow. I have to jump through hoops at work with my boss to even make this possible. I had to get honest and tell my company that I was really depressed, contemplating jumping off a bridge and I needed some time off. They had me fill out a Family Medical Leave Act form. Thank God for FMLA. Bing. A text message on my phone breaks my train of thought. It’s my friend Joe, and he is here. I grab my cigarettes and coat and run out the door to meet him in the parking lot. We instantly give each other a big bear hug. I love this guy. I worked with him 10 years ago in a telemarketing place, and we have been friends ever since. I feel like he understands me more than anyone in the planet some days. I love his wife, too. She understands that Joe and I are friends. They are the most attractive couple I know. I am a bridesmaid in their wedding next year. A Kindred Soul He hands me a book, Unlimited Power, by Tony Robbins. “Joe! I didn’t know you liked Tony Robbins!” “I have been reading and listening to him for years,” he says with a smile. I take a cigarette out of my pack and light one up. I take a long drag and watch the paper on the cigarette slowly singe. Joe and I walk around to the smoking area of the office building and find a place to sit. Just being next to him I feel safe. I say, “I am petrified about tomorrow. Going to Tony Robbins, leaving my family, being in a place I have never been before. Who knows what’s in Dallas? I know in my heart that I must go through with this though, no matter how scared I am. I feel like I am called to it. Like almost pulled by a cosmic force I can’t explain or see, I can only feel it in my soul. I know one thing is true right now. I just don’t want to feel like I am dying anymore.” Our eyes meet, and he says, “You will always succeed, no matter where you go. Think about it. The last place we worked, you were number one booker five years in a row. Then, here, you’ve been the number one sales rep four years in a row. Everywhere you go and everything you touch, you make better.” I have a hard time taking that compliment and I instantly start to look through the book to deflect his compliment and I realize, he has read the whole book. As I flip through the pages, I see he has carefully underlined passages he’s loved, especially certain parts about stepping into the person you want to become. I glance up at him and smile. It doesn’t surprise me. He is the smartest person I know, and his wife is the sweetest and the nicest. I am jealous of them sometimes because I see the love between them and I wish that for me and my husband. I get teary and say, “Thank you, Joe. Thank you.” He gives me a huge hug and we talk for another 20 minutes. We get up and start walking back to his car. He is on his way to meet the love of his life for his engagement pictures. He is glowing. He turns and looks at me, “This is just the beginning for you. Call me or Cherie anytime, day or night, doesn’t matter, we will be there.” As I watch him get into his car, I realize how grateful I am for his friendship. I run to the car before he pulls out and I knock on his window and get one more hug from him. I tell him to have fun with his beautiful bride-to-be, and I mean it with my whole heart. I turn and walk back into the office. I have chills. I am holding a book, and tomorrow I am going to see the man who wrote it. My life is going to change tremendously. I am all in, I say to myself. I then say it out loud: “I am all in. I am ready.” I feel the presence again in that moment. I feel like I’m not alone. There is a force much greater than me at work behind the scenes here and I feel its grace and love. Flying Solo That night I lay awake in my bed, feeling like a child on Christmas Eve. I am so excited and scared that I can’t fall asleep. I start to wonder about what lies ahead for me tomorrow as I take off toward my destiny, to Love Field in Dallas. I have never been there. Actually, I have never been on a plane by myself. I lie next to my husband, listening to him breathe. I wish we had more of a connection. Most days I feel like we’re shouting at each other from two different worlds and our messages get scrambled along the way. We had fought earlier about my going. He couldn’t believe I took out a $5,000 loan. He couldn’t believe I am going away for four days. He said he wanted me to make him number one. He said he didn’t need this “Tony Robbins bullshit.” Our marriage has been one of turmoil. Sure, we have had our amazing moments when things were picture-perfect but somehow we would always end up here, going to bed angry. I think back to five years earlier where I am putting on my wedding dress. My sister is helping me. I’m looking in the mirror and my sister intuitively knows something is wrong. She is giving me a concerned look. I move away from her and stare out the window, my back turned to her. I stare out the window in my handmade lace wedding gown. “He isn’t the one,” I manage to say. “I mean, don’t get me wrong. I love him very much, he is great man and we have a little girl together but I feel like my heart is telling me he isn’t the one.” My sister says, “Carolyn, you don’t have to go through with this. You can cancel everything. People do it all the time.” I turn and look her in the dead in the eyes. “It has to work. We have a child together. Plus, he takes care of me, like no one else I ever met. I will make him the one.” I walk past her and say, “Come on, let’s go get married.” With a small, sad smile on her face, she grabs me and hugs me. She says, “I love you no matter what you decide. I just want you to be happy.” I hide a tear that rolls down my face, quickly wiping it away. “Let’s go,” I say. That was five years ago. Mike and I have had many amazing magical moments and many dark moments. I don’t think anyone liked us together. Not his family and not my family. And when your family tells you that the person you’re with isn’t right for you, sometimes they are right. They can see something that you may be blinded to. The uncertainty of losing my husband and then being alone—well, that is the most frightening thing in the world. I have never just been alone. I have always had some type of boyfriend or someone I was sleeping with or just having sex with. But I do love Mike immensely. I didn’t know love until I met him. He vibrates my soul at times and other times I wonder how we made it this far. I love the man sleeping next to me with my whole heart. We had this sexual synergy that is to the moon and beyond. We were magnets for each other. But, as I prepared to change my life, all he wanted to do was watch TV and chill. I want more. I want to grow, expand, learn and love. I want to fly. My sister Marie told me a story once. A husband and wife were in a house that was burning down. The man just stood there looking around at the fire and the woman went and found out a way out. She came running back into the house and grabbed the man’s hand. He looked at her blankly and sat down on the ground. She said, “What are you doing? Get up! Get up please! I found a way out of the fire.” The man stared blankly at the floor and shook his head no. “I do not know what is out there,” the man said. “GET UP!” The woman pleaded. “GET UP! PLEASE!” She shouted again and again. She looked at the only exit out of the burning house and then she looked back him and started to cry. She was so in love with him that she sat down beside him with tears flowing. She said, “I would rather die in this fire with you than to go out into the unknown world and face it without you.” They held hands as they died in the fire. I do not want to die in the fire. My mind races with my heart. Why? Why can’t Mike understand my dream? I have this burning in my soul that must be satisfied or I will combust. I cannot pretend anymore that I am okay, that things are just fine. That’s the problem. I want to be better than just fine. I want to unleash my fucking soul. I allow myself to take a few deep breaths. I am pulled towards a moment from a few hours ago. Mike and I are facing each other in the kitchen. He asks in desperation, “Why can’t you just be happy with what you have?” I take a deep breath before I answer. “I am dying. I can feel my body and my mind and my soul dying. That’s why I am going to see Tony Robbins,” I say, defending myself. He still doesn’t get it. I can tell from the way he is looking at me. “When was the last time you did something for the first time?” I ask him, desperately wanting him to understand. He glares at me. He says, “I can tell you exactly how it’s going to go down. You are going to lose your job, then stick me with all this debt. It’s ridiculous. This is all your fault. All of it. In fact, I want nothing to do with it. Don’t ask me to take you to the airport or pick you up.” He turns and walks away. I don’t know how to explain what’s happening within me. I feel amazing change is coming and if I don’t start taking action I will miss this opportunity to unleash and awaken my soul. I come back to the moment and just breathe. I listen to Mike breathe in and out. I finally close my eyes and my racing thoughts slow, sinking into my mind’s deep ocean of swirling thoughts until I succumb to the darkness of sleep.  Posted By Carolyn Rim April 10th, 2017 (3 Minute Read) So I have been working with energy healers. Today for what felt like the first time ever.... I embraced all of me. Every part of me. You see one of the ways we don't love ourselves is we don't allow ourself to feel sadness without guilt saying, "I shouldn't feel like this." We feel pain in our body but we don't understand thats it connected to something emotional and trust me when I say that it is most certainly connected to something. Today instead of judging or questioning the pain or trying to resist it... I embraced it and danced. I danced with my gorgeous pain. And it was sad and beautiful and angry and betrayed and all the other colors of the emotional rainbow within me. I literally became a miniature me and I went inside my body and I went to the parts of my body that needed care and attention and love. I went to my neck. I went to my lower back. I went into them and I came face to face with some very old pain. I had resisted this pain so long and all of sudden I was face to face with it. I grabbed my pain gently and said I will dance with you. I will embrace you. I will be with you. Literally within seconds I shifted out of that pain and went to the next pain. All the pain and stored energy in my body from years and years and years of letting people use me, treat me like a doormat, and I didn't try to change the pain. I just stayed with it. I embraced it and My God, it was one of the most freeing freaking beautiful experiences I have ever encountered. Then I didn't force the pain to go away, I just held it as long as it needed to be held. Then I started to taste cotton candy in my mouth and I felt a sweetness in my body. Like my body soul, mind and heart were all connected and it led this feeling that felt like a swirling feeling that started to rise and rise and twirl easily and effortlessly spiral upwardly. I then started laughing, half crying and I am pretty sure I growled. But whatever came up I just stayed with it. I allowed old ways and parts of myself that had once served me but no longer did fall away From me like a snake would shed its skin, my skin fell away from my body. I am not sure if you have ever experienced a lightness like a feather but today within, I felt so light that I could fly. Literally like I could start running and lift off the ground like a 747 in full flight. The pain I had been avoiding was easy to organically shift out of of once I embraced and stayed with it and stopped judging it. Stopped blaming. Stopped pointing the finger. I just embraced it with total acceptance and love and compassion. Why do you need to know this? You see my friends, people will go to great lengths to avoid pain. People will literally go their whole life not speaking their souls truth because they are afraid of going through the pain of uncertainty and change!! They are afraid of embracing something new. Crazy right!? But it happens all the time. How? TOP 5 WAYS WE AVOID PAIN #1 Settles For Connection Rather Than LOVE They stay in relationships even though they know the other person isn't right for them but they are 100% afraid of facing life alone so they settle. Settling for connection instead of love because it's less scary for them. #2 Don't Go For What They Really Want They stay in jobs that they know they are good at but never really go beyond that or expand their horizons by trying something new, or doing what their heart is telling them because the fear of going for their dreams and not succeeding would be to painful. They are being afraid of failure or disappointment. #3 Validate Their BS They resists real friendships and people in their lives who call them on their own bs. They only surround themselves with people who at a lower level because it makes them feel better about themselves. Surrounding themselves with others who were doing better would make them take a look at themselves. #4 Constantly Say They Are Busy They never take time to meditate or just sit with themselves silently because doing so would mean that they would have to look at their own inner state of awareness and truths and that would be to painful. #5 Blame Others They consistently blame others for how they are feeling so they don't need responsibility because accepting that 100% responsibility for their life and all that they didn't accomplish or do or regret would be too painful. Bottom line.... I am sharing this because my soul, my heart, my body is being affected on a drastic level. I want to share this energy with you all. At all my Spark Your Rockstar events we will have energy work done their at least for a few hours to open up the energy centers and start speaking your souls truth. I get messages all the time from people saying they feel pulled or called to me and this energy or this event and then they back out because of fear. Then I have people who take the leap of faith and invest in themselves and it's been paying off 10 fold for those people. If you knew me a week ago, allow me to reintroduce myself... because my growth game is strong and I believe in constant evolution and expansion whether this scares you or makes you judge me or makes you take the leap onto the other freaking side with me into pain, into the bliss, into the growth... I hope you do whatever your soul and your heart is pulling you to do. Whatever problem you have in your life is their to help you grow. Problems don't exist just to be problems. We get problems so we can grow. They are to I benefit us. Embrace the pain. Embrace the beauty of all of you. Every part of you. All the flaws, all the gorgeousness of your sweet soul, drink it all in and allow it to quench your thirst to be who you really are and do what you really love and speak your rockstar soul truth. We all have a story... and not matter what yours is, I promise the pain is worth connecting with and moving through it instead in resistance of it. I love you. I see you. As Always, sending you high fives, hugs and pattern breaking ass slaps, Carolyn Rim  Image From Last Spark Your Rockstar Event: CLICK HERE TO JOIN US FOR THE NEXT ONE AND EMBRACE ALL OF YOU!!   By Carolyn Rim
February 1st, 2017 Note: You may feel uncomfortable reading this, I want to gently remind you that this is a positive signal meaning change is coming or needs to come. In fact... the greater the discomfort... the greater the change coming.... I encourage you to mark the one you like the least, choose the worst of the worst and put in the chat. The first step to self love is vulnerability and getting real. Dive in .... Deep breathe in. Read on Rockstars... 7 Clues You Don't Love Yourself Enough #1 You constantly put others first. You find yourself pushing to do just a little more of what you do not want to be doing, and then a little more after that. #2 You are very critical of others. When we are in judgement of others really we are just judging something within us. When you judge someone else you are really just judging yourself. #3 You are extremely critical of your decisions. You question everything, such as your behavior, others behavior and generally you can't receive compliments even if someone tries to give you one. You have kind things to say about others but not yourself. #4 You scratch or pick at your skin or scalp. This is a manifestation that is happening because you are refusing to take a look at something inside so it's manifesting outwardly to try to get your attention. #5 You don't listen to your body. You put off eating, urinating, and other important needs when your body is telling you it needs something... you consistently don't listen. #6 You are consistently late for things. You are consistently late for things and do give yourself enough time to get their. You do not allow yourself space to make mistakes and are constantly grabbing the bat for a little verbal beating within. You beat yourself up when late and play the victim saying you are not enough and keep wondering why you keep doing the same shit over and over again. #7 You are driven by what others will think of you. You make your decisions not based on your likes or dislikes, not based on your needs and desires but on the hope of gaining someone else's approval or attention. Okay ... NOW WHAT Carolyn?! How Can I stop self sabotaging and start loving myself? I got you. The following is for people who struggle most with number 5 especially and it's a great example for the others too: •How long do you go with an annoying problems on your body without going to the doctors? •How long do you put up with that drip in the sink, or the rug you keep tripping on, or housework that needs to be done but you keep putting off? •Still wearing the pants that hardly fit you? Or struggling in the dark Bc of that same broken light you haven't fixed? Listen those who give themselves little... have very little to give others and of course their own lives are more difficult too. The first step to loving yourself means understanding and realizing that self care is not something extra, not something for when you have time, it is an absolute most and vital to your health! Follow this guide to start walking down Love Yourself Lane! #1 Start by letting any lack of self care be ok. Not something else you make yourself feel bad about. A universal truth that helps me is that I tell myself I am always doing the very best I can right now. #2 Give yourself permission to feel uncomfortable. I know this is gonna sound strange but stepping up and giving yourself self care and self love can feel slightly irritating and almost painful. You can make these uncomfortable feelings pass quicker by not resisting them but instead embracing the shit out of them. Hugging them and facing it head on and giving yourself to feel whatever emotion that comes up flow through you. #3 Choose to work on one at a time. When I first starting this process... I was doing many things that were not being nice to myself. So I just started with number 1. I started taking care of me. I started eating healthy. I then started on giving myself space to make mistakes and to f up. Lol Fucking up is actually a good thing because your last mistake or failure is actually your greatest lesson if you are willing to look at it. So allow yourself some space to scream! To go crazy! Allow yourself space to be your crazy beautiful ridiculously amazing awesome self. #4 Start removing people who are critical of you or drastically reduce your time with them. You love yourself remember and you deserve to have the space to be your incredibly awesome self. You are your own worst critic and you don't need anyone else on the outside jumping on the beating yourself up wagon! Kick them off and then take control of that mother fer and stop it dead in its tracks. Then, go get a pedicure or massage after that. lol #5 Celebrate when you speak your souls truth and follow your hearts guidance! Celebrate when you practice self love! Shake your ass and reward yourself! #6 Stop beating yourself up for past mistakes! Guess what folks? If you are living in the past and constantly reviewing all your past mistakes how do you think you are gonna feel? Yup.... not so hot and fluffy. But if you start reviewing times you succeeded and times when you were proud of yourself then you will consciously program yourself to focus on your strengths and start loving yourself and seeing the good in you. This will build health confidence too. #7 Meditate. Oh baby. If you only could experience some of the benefits... wait a second you can! You just have to meditate daily and consistently. I love doing the chakra meditation from Oneness University but you have to find what works for you. I have created a 99 Day Meditation Dare that takes the guessing out of it. You can click here to check it out! www.SparkYourRockstar.com So...Tell me ... Do you love yourself? How do you show yourself love? In What ways do you self sabotage? Rockstars most of all... be kind to yourself. Show compassion and love for yourself! I love you! Oxox  Answer these questions to find out. If you answer "yes" to more than 4 of the 10 questions, "you might benefit by examining how much time you spend on your Smartphone," according to the quiz. Take some time to really become aware on how much you are being sucked back towards your phone. 1. "Do you find yourself spending more time on your Smartphone than you realize?" 2. "Do you feel reluctant to be without your Smartphone, even for a short time?" 3. "Is the first thing you do in the morning check your smartphone?" 4. "Is the last thing you do before bed check your smartphone?" 5. "Do you check your phone notifications more then 5 times a day?" 6. "Do you find yourself wanting to take pictures and documenting your life just so you can post a picture later to show everyone?" 7. "Do you spend more then 3 hours a day on social media?" 8. "Do you find people in your life, such as spouses or children, asking you to get off your phone?" 9. "Do you notice yourself getting irritated at your family when you are pulled off your phone and family need your attention?" 10. "Do you feel tremendous anxiety if your phone dies or if you leave it at home?" So... Tell me how did you do? Did you find you are just documenting your life instead of really living it? Reach out to me and tell me if you think you could use a little #disconnect2reconnect time! I am starting to work with couples and families on how to start the process of reconnecting to disconnecting. I will never forget seeing myself on the camera and how I was ignoring my little girl. This changed my life. You can email me at [email protected] to learn more information on how to #iPutitdown. Let's learn to become awake, aware and present in our lives. Want to find out how you can disconnect and reconnect to living in a beautiful state of mind?  As a bonus, I will included the TOP 10 WAYS TO DISCONNECT2 RECONNECT ! THE TOP 10 WAYS TO DISCONNECT TO RECONNECT WARNING: THESE MAY TURN YOU ON... (INSERT MECHANICAL LONG EVIL LAUGH HERE) Ready to recharge your mind, body and soul! OHHH YES!!!! 1. Come to a Spark Your Rockstar Event ONE OF A KIND EXCLUSIVE ROCKSTAR WEEKEND EVENTS. Next event is in Austin Tx with Jesse Elder. Are you ready to take the plunge? Stop tip toeing in your life and start taking massive action! Create an unforgettable weekend experience and come connect with the people, the passion and the enegy that can help make it happen! Click here to see what Spark Your Rockstar events are coming up next! 2. CULTIVATE STILLNESS...MEDITATION Second on the SYR list is SEND your brain on a little all expense paid vacation! There are so many ways to disconnect but one thing is for sure...Silence is one of the best. When is the last time you remember stillness? Been a while, huh? Commit to a daily meditation practice even if it's just for 10 minutes, as soon as you get up. If you can take another mediation break in the middle of the day, even better. The more opportunity you give your brain to calm down and refresh itself, the more productive and creative it will be - you just need to give it a little free time! If you're ready to make a longer commitment, consider trying a silent retreat, one where meditation and quiet contemplation are the main events. HINT...HINT ...Go back to #1...lol A Meditation retreat may be just what the Spark Your Rockstar doctor ordered... 3. WHO WANTS A QUICKIE? ;) Are you ready to be excited, turned on....and whoa?! Wait a second! I thought we were relaxing! Yes WE ARE! That is exactly what this quickie will do for you! I am talking about the one and only...Quickie Body Scan. Are you starting to melt yet? By now, I should have helped create a small smile on your face which always helps relax the face muscles. To help quiet your mind, and boost awareness of the sensations in your body, sit or lie down in a comfortable position and close your eyes. Start by drawing your attention to different parts of your body, and checking in with how they feel. you can begin at your scalp and then go to your eye lids, and then down to your shoulders and neck, and feel any tension just dissolve. Then Start working your way down the body and continue to notice tension and release it. A thorough body scan might last about 10 minutes, but you can make this a quickie anytime you need to distress and just relax. 4. WHEN YOU ARE OFF DUTY, MEAN IT! Make weekends and vacations true relaxation times, not just lighter versions of your weekday workdays. Use the-out-of-office notification setting on your office email and resist the urge to respond to emails until just a few hours before your scheduled return. If not checking your email makes you nervous or puts your livelihood at risk, politely inform colleagues that you'll be checking emails at specific times, for example 10 am, 3 pm and 7 pm, and will be able to respond only to the most truly time sensitive ones. If you value your off-hours, so will they. 5. DANCE ...Like YOU Mean it. Turn on some music and just dance. When is the last time you just danced? I mean just let your freaking hair down and started to move your hips? The free motion and stretching of movements of dance can help to release tension from the body and lift your spirits. Exercise in any form can actually act as a stress reliever by pumping up endorphin's and dancing can be particularity enjoyable to blow off steam for many people! I guarantee this will boost your mood! NOW SHAKE THINE ASS! lol 6. READ A BOOK (NOT ON AN IPAD, AN ACTUAL BOOK) When was the last time you read a book? It is a thing of the past but truly we need to bring back the books! If you’re one of countless people who don’t make a habit of reading regularly, you might be missing out: reading has a significant number of benefits. It reduces stress, uses your imagination and helps you to have better clarity and focus even when you are not reading. Grab a book and sit in the sunshine. Nothing better than a good book and God's sunshine. 7. LAUGH Even if it doesn't feel natural at first, making time for a quick laugh, whether its by watching a silly animal video or reminding yourself of a funny joke,. can help bust you out of a stressful head space. Laughter releases endorphin's in the brain and relaxes the muscles in your face. So, go ahead I dare you...make an inappropriate joke and don't take life so seriously all the time. "That's what she said." lol It makes no sense I know in this reference but it still gets me every time! 8. BREATHE IN AND OUT...BADA BOOM...BADA BING I remember I was sitting in traffic a few short months ago and I realized, I was not breathing. I was actually holding my breath. Why? I connected the dots and realized anytime I was nervous or feeling tension I would start to breathe in a very shallow way. I shoulders would slouch and my eyebrows would furrow in. Then I decided to breathe in and out. Just focusing on the breathe and the cool inhalation when I breathe in and the warm exhalation as I breathe out has helped tremendously. You try. Try to focus all your energy on the breath, and it can take you from good to great very very quickly! I have some priming I do daily and would love to share it with it you as well! Reach out to me if you are interested in rewriting your mornings with less stress and more love, energy and team spirit! 9. HAVE SEX (WITH OR WITHOUT YOUR PARTNER...) So just to name a few benefits of sex, whether you have a partner or not, sex can help boost happiness and self esteem levels and decrease stress levels instantly. You may nod off more quickly after sex too and for good reason. After an orgasm, the hormone prolactin is released which is responsible for the feelings of relaxation and sleepiness. So you can now make the big OOOO without feeling guilty! What the hell right?! Grab your partner and give them the sexy eyes. lol By yourself? No worries. That makes it even easier. Grab a mirror and go ahead and be irresistible.... to yourself. Can anyone say...H to the O to the T?! lol 10. TAKE A WALK! A WHAT? A WALK OUTSIDE!! A HIKE! YES GET SUNSHINE! I think its so nice I will go for a walk. Do you ever get the winter blues? Feeling a little holed up starring at the computer screen to the rectangular screen and back and forth from your ipad, to your mac, to your iphone and then you realize, you have not been outside, like really outside, in nature in a really long time. You are human and whether you say you like the outdoors or not, it is in our human nature to love the outdoors. I know every time I am feeling a little under the weather all I need to do is take a little walk and I feel so much better! Grab your dog! Grab your husband! Grab anything you want except your phone or laptop! Leave technology at home and disconnect2reconnect! PLEASE JOIN THE SPARK YOUR ROCKSTAR COMMUNITY AND TELL US YOUR RESULTS! www.facebook.com/groups/sparkenergy/ Check out www.SparkYourRockstar.com for information on events, dates and how we can work together to help you LIVE YOUR LIFE TO THE ROCKSTAR FULLEST! Sending you High Fives, Hugs, & Pattern Breaking Ass Slaps, Carolyn Rim Founder of Spark Your Rockstar, LLC Website: www.SparkYourRockstar.com Email: [email protected] Join the Rockstars of 1000's of people making dreams come true in the SPARK YOUR ROCKSTAR COMMUNITY: www.facebook.com/groups/sparkenergy    Do you have a mentor??? Yes or no? You need a mentor that already has What you want! Then model their behavior and ask the right questions! Top 6 Reasons YOU Need a Mentor TO SUCCEED! Mentors are critical to your success in all areas of life. Some people prefer the title of counselor, consultant, coach, or guide, but all share the commonality of being experienced and trusted advisors. We start life depending on the guidance of parents and caregivers, which then evolves to teachers and coaches. Those individuals prepare us for life, and yet at some point many of us feel like we no longer need guidance. Maybe we think we have learned all there is to know and now we are supposed to be strong and independent. Maybe it is because all of those mentors along the way were put into our lives and we don't know how to seek them out. Maybe we expect the leaders within our company to fill that role. How we came to believe any or all of these ideas is less important than the awakening that the the truly great seek out mentors and constant improvement. A simple example is that CEOs do not have just one mentor, they generally create entire board of directors to help steer their and the company's success. All Olympic athletes have coaches. At a reported net worth of $480 million self help guru, Tony Robbins, surrounds himself with mentors and coaches to hone and improve continuously. BENEFIT #1 A Mentor holds you ACCOUNTABLE and keeps you on track I'm sure we've all been there, that overwhelmed feeling, knowing exactly what we want to accomplish but no idea how to get there. When you find the right mentor, who has achieved your desired goal, they have the experience to keep you on track with the work that will truly move the needle. A good mentor will help you outline the path to what you define as success, and knowing someone will check on your progress helps you get it done! BENEFIT #2 A Mentor will ELEVATE YOUR GOALS We all start in different places, but the personal relationship with a mentor will help them understand where you are and how to push you to the next level. Mentors are able to draw out the potential inside of you and, like a mirror, reflect it back. I remember going through a difficult time and I started to compare myself with others. I kept telling my mentors I want to be where you are now and I was getting very frustrated. I will never forget what my mentor, Joseph McClendon said to me “Stop comparing my chapter 20 to your chapter 3.” I will never forget another teacher of mine, Sifu Terryann DeAngeles saying “Comparing can only lead to two things, 1) An expanded ego. Or 2) You make yourself feel less than.” Comparing does not serve your evolution. The only person you should compare yourself with is the person that stares back at you in the mirror everyday. Now I enjoy the journey :) I am not in a rush to get to chapter 20. I am enjoying my chapter 3 and I don’t want to be anything other than the best version of me. BENEFIT #3 Their soul purpose is to SUPPORT YOU without prejudgment, baggage, bias I believe this is one of the most under discussed benefits of a working with a mentor. They want you to be successful, but what they don't tend to do is bring their own baggage to the table. Have you ever gone home to your family or coworkers with a new goal or idea, only to have them shoot it down, remind you of all your other failed attempts? That feeling of being so small creeps in. Like nothing you do is enough. Like all your passion and knowledge in the world is worthless. A mentors reaction will likely be to encourage you to craft that idea. Tell you to see it all the way through in brainstorming, have you prove or disprove it. They will test your passion and competency for the idea, but they should never just dismiss it. A trusted mentor with the insight to keep you on track for your goals, who cares enough to hold you accountable, and challenges you to be even better all without bringing negative bias to the interaction is invaluable. BENEFIT #4 A Mentor Believes In You More Than You Believe In Yourself I will never forget when I was doing an event in 2015 I called Joseph McClendon and I told him I was stuck and I didn't believe I could do it. I was really beating myself up. He was very kind to me and said, "Kid, there is a time when you have to feel it. Then there is a time when you have to break out of the web of your own bullshit. Now, I believe in you and I believe that you can definitely get people to your event but until you believe it, I can tell you others will struggle to believe it too." I felt so motivated and inspired after that call I sold 10 tickets! He made me see my strengths not my weakness's. Ultimately a mentor is someone who believes in you more than you believe in yourself. This belief helps encourage you to have the confidence to do things that you might not otherwise do. As Henry Ford of motor car fame said, “Whether you think you can or whether you think you can’t you are probably right." The power of the belief others have in you, and consequently you have in yourself transforms your prospects, circumstances and achievements. You cannot afford to be without a mentor who believes in you. BENEFIT #5 A MENTOR IS THERE WHEN YOU NEED THEM AND GIVE GREAT ADVICE Then one time I could not stop obsessing about my ex and he gave me the best advice ever! If had been a year since my ex husband left me but I was still stuck in the rinse and repeat cycle of my own stories and bullshit. Joseph said, "Carolyn hurry up hurry up go get a pen!" I ran and got a pen. He said, "Are you ready? Get the F*%$ over it!" I wrote that done too! I was laughing and celebrating by the end of the call with him. He always gives me advice that helps me see my way out of the dark. He told me to start celebrating my divorce! I never heard of anything like that! I always feel better after speaking with him. He always makes me feel like a better human being. BENEFIT #6 A MENTOR HELPS YOU ELEVATE BY GIVING YOU A BONE HERE AND THERE My mentor Joseph has helped me so much. Back in UPW NJ when I didn't have a ticket, he was the one who made sure I got a Tony Robbins special blue friends and family section neckless. In fact a few days ago, I gave a completely free ticket to Tony Robbins to one of my mentees because I am a firm believer in paying it forward! Mentors are by far one of the top reasons I have succeeded! Without outstanding teachers, you can not realistically expect outstanding results. Choose them wisely and make sure if at time you feel like something off or doesn't feel right.. you move on. I have moved on from some teachers. Remember some teachers are only there for a short time so be grateful for the lessons, thank them and then hit the road jack! So put in the comments who your mentor is!! Don’t have one yet? Start looking! Who do you want to be your mentor and why? JUST GO FOR IT! NO MATTER WHO IT IS! NO MATTER HOW BIG YOU THINK THEY ARE… ASK FOR WHAT YOU WANT MY FRIENDS! If you don't ask the answer will always be no anyway so you may as well ask for what you want! Rockstars I promise I will never stop growing. I will never stop giving. I am overflowing with love and joy. I am a radiant positive example of the absolute joy that is available to us at every moment. Growing is the secret! Never stop growing! Progress is the secret key to happiness! ❤️❤️❤️ Thank you for letting me share Sending you High Fives, Hugs, & Pattern Breaking Ass Slaps, Carolyn Rim Founder of Spark Your Rockstar, LLC Website: www.SparkYourRockstar.com Email: [email protected] Join the Rockstars of 1000's of people making dreams come true SPARK YOUR ROCKSTAR COMMUNITY: www.facebook.com/groups/sparkenergy   I can't explain what's happening. I can try but I am certain by the time you are done reading this, you will have either two opinions of me. One: She is batshit crazy! 😜Two: She is batshit crazy but I love her and respect her vulnerability. I created Spark Your Rockstar Community because I wanted a safe space for myself and others to share. I decided today that I wanted to share with everyone. I had an experience the other day with this man named John. I do not want to tag him as I know if I did many of you would instantly reach out to him. I am working with him to come up with a Spark Your Rockstar event so he can share his abilities and gifts with the rockstars. Being part of this community you all receive VIP status, discounts and invites to things others do not. I am going to do my best to describe what happened to me the other day without you all thinking I am absolutely nuts. I am pretty confident most of you already think I am crazy so this will just be the whip cream and the cherry on top. Tony Robbins says the secret to living is giving. I whole heartedly agree. I know many of you already know of the magic that happened this past weekend at the business mastery event. A woman stood up and said she worked for Underground Railroad Operations. They help stop child human trafficking. She said her dreams coming true would be to eradicate human trafficking. When Tony heard this, he instantly asked how much to save 10 children. She said that would be a 100,000 operation. Then, he said I will give you 100,000 to save me 10 children. Then a man stood up and said I want to save a child and instantly, one by one all of these people stood up and wanted to help this woman. I so wanted to save a child but at this moment I didn't have 10k sitting around, so I had to just stand there, but in my head, I said to myself, I will save one more child. I then proceeded to find a team called All For One who had hula hoops and they said they would help me save one more child for 10k. I asked them to write on a sign, hula hoop for 10k. I raised 10k within 2 hours and 30 mins of hula hooping. I had blisters on my feet, my abs were on fire, and I had to pee. I didn't care. I was crying because I kept thinking that this was nothing compared to what a child who was sold for sex trade would have to go through. After, Justin Ligeri saved me by grabbing my hula hoop and telling me he had me, I cried tears of gratitude that we were going to be able to save one more child. Out of me doing what I did, a beautiful gift was given to me. Tony Robbins also says what we give we get back ten fold. The gift I received was meeting with this man named John. He does network spinal Analysis. He is the best of the best and works on celebrities, billionaires and people like well, the big guy. I am going to do my best to describe what happened next, because words can not really do this experience justice. As soon as I walk into his hotel room, I know I am in good hands. He hugs me heart to heart. He asks me if I feel any pain anywhere in my body. Yes. My Neck. He says ok. Then I lay face down on the table. He starts gently touching my back and spine, I felt a surge of pain and energy surge through me. My stomach instantly started to grumble loudly and I hear John whisper, "Oh My God. Just release it, feel it, let it go. Allow it to flow through you." I start to sob. I feel incredible pain for about 15 seconds, where my whole life, including past life flashes before my eyes. I see all the life times. The 1000s of years and just as quickly as the pain came, all pain left me as I allowed all of it to flow through. I felt like a released 1000 pounds of pent up energy. He asked me to turn over onto my back. I was conscious this whole time but it was almost like I was on another level, like a different plain or dimension. That's when I felt God's love pure through me. My body started to shake, as if I was having a stroke. One side of my face went numb, and I took a deep breathe in and out and felt this love stream through me. I screamed out loud, "I know who I am! I know who I am. I know who I am!" OMG this beautiful fucking feeling of absolutely knowing why I was here and what I was here to do... And then suddenly a rush of fear flowed through me for what I knew I would have to do, and what gifts I had, who I really was and what responsibility lie on my shoulders. I instantly started screaming, "John! I am scared! It's too much, I can't. I don't know if I can do this!" John grabbed my shaking hands and pulled them into prayer hands to the center of my forehead. He said, "Accept the gifts it is giving you. We are all given gifts. Say thank you. Say thank you!" I then feel a vibration that I could move mountains, a vibration that instantly shifts and moves my whole body. I tilt my head all the way back and above me I feel God (universe, source, whatever you call it based on your beliefs), I start saying things but it doesn't sound like my voice, it's a different voice coming from me one I have never heard before. "I am your servant! I love you! Thank you God! I will do it! I will do what you need me to do with child like faith! I will never stop serving! I am that I am! I am you and I am love! Thank you! Thank you!" After my body stopped convulsing, I was shaking but smiling. I still felt like I was on the drug ecstasy but without any negative side effects. I saw no limits. I saw no barriers. I only saw love. Love in everything and everyone. I am still processing this experience and honestly, I was hesitant to even share this with you all, for fear that you would think I am out of my mind, but honestly, I don't care what you all think of me. Maybe some of you will think I am batshit crazy after reading this and that's okay. I know that may sound harsh, but I am just sharing what happened. I am just being me and sharing what is happening along the way. Documentation is super important through my rockstar process here. Being honest, open and real is what I crave and I know you all crave someone being open and raw too. I am not any one religion. I am just sharing an experience. Anyways, my whole point is I would have never had this experience if I didn't hula hoop for almost 3 hours. I would not have had this experience if it wasn't on my heart to save a child. When we give from our hearts, magical doorways open up to avalanches of abundance. Rockstars I promise I will never stop growing. I will never stop giving. I am overflowing with love and joy. I am a radiant positive example of the absolute joy that is available to us at every moment. Growing is the secret! Never stop growing! Progress is the secret key to happiness! ❤️❤️❤️ Thank you for letting me share. UPDATE: Since this post, I have partnered with John Amaral and guess what that means..... WANT TO JOIN JOHN AMARAL AND I AT ONE OF OUR EVENTS?! YUP YOU GUESSED IT! YOU NOW HAVE ACCESS TO JOHN AMARAL, JUST LIKE TONY ROBBINS AND THE STARS DO! Join us! THESE EVENTS SELL OUT FAST! Click here to apply to come to the Spark Your Rockstar Event with John Amaral and I! Sending you High Fives, Hugs, & Pattern Breaking Ass Slaps, Carolyn Rim Founder of Spark Your Rockstar, LLC Website: www.SparkYourRockstar.com Email: [email protected] Phone: (610)751-1664 Join the Rockstars of 1000's of people making dreams come true in the SPARK YOUR ROCKSTAR COMMUNITY: www.facebook.com/groups/sparkenergy    By Carolyn Rim 5 Steps To Heal Self-Worth You can change the way other people treat you by changing the way you treat yourself. The way you treat yourself sets the standards for others. A woman had private messaged me and this is what she wrote to me, “Dear Carolyn, low self-worth is the biggest huddle for me in goal setting. I know goal setting works but in the past my low self-worth always sabotaged my goals even when I had achieved them or was just about to reap the rewards of a lot of hard work. Please do a video on how to heal self-worth. Screaming at myself how great I am isn’t the answer, Thanks Carolyn!" -Anonymous Rockstar Thank you Anonymous Rockstar so much for asking about self-worth, because this is something that isn’t talked about often and it needs to be talked about more. I am going to dive right into it and give you 5 steps that are going to help you implement change in the way you think about yourself. #1 YOU FIRST Just like when you are on a plane that’s crashing you need to put your own oxygen mask on first before you can help anyone else, you need to apply this in your own life okay. When you know how to identify your own needs and have a range of options for fulfilling them, you don’t have to rely on others to do it for you. By taking care of you first, you become a role model for others, especially when you have children in your life. We can demonstrate that self-care is actually a way to care for others because we serve from our overflow instead of our cup. #2 LISTEN TO YOUR HEART & TAKE MASSIVE ACTION Listen to your heart, honor yourself as the expert of your own life and trust yourself, you must trust in something whether it’s your destiny, God, source, gut, fate, karma, whatever you call it based on your beliefs. You must believe that something is guiding you, it will give you the courage to follow and listen to your heart even when it whispers to take the first step and take the leap of faith in the dark even though you can't see the whole staircase. Don’t let the noise of other’s opinions drown out the voice of your heart, have the courage to follow your heart and your gut. They somehow already know what you truly want to become and when you take action, even if you do self sabotage yourself here, you will learn. Failure is a good thing. You can not have success without failure. Our mistakes are our the best teachers on the planet. #3 STOP BLAMING AND TAKE YOUR POWER BACK People with low self worth blame people for their past mistakes because they have a hard time looking at inner truths. Anytime you feel resistance, its because you are about to meet part of yourself you may not like. Thats part of the process rockstars! The sooner you open your eyes, the sooner you can take your power back and move forward! If you continue to play the blame game, you will never accept your true powers within. It takes a lot of courage to tweezer open your eyes and see what beliefs are affecting your life in a negative manner. Stop blaming others for where you are at, accept 100% full responsibility for where you are now and then decide where you want to take yourself. By accepting full responsibility, you take your power back! Like Glinda from the Wizard The Oz said, "You had the power all along my dear. You just had to realize it for yourself. #4 HOW DO YOU TAKE CARE OF YOU? A huge part of self-worth is respecting your body and what you put into your body. Are you eating junk food every day or are you putting good nourishing foods into your body? Are you wearing sweatpants every day or are you dressing for success and dressing in clothes that make you happy and make you feel good? Are you taking care of you? Guess what rockstars? You are constantly sending a message to your brain all the time. How you feed yourself and how you dress yourself is sending a message to your brain on how you really feel about you. Respect yourself, respect your body, and treat it like the beautiful amazing gift that it is. Take care of you. #5 FORGIVE YOURSELF I thank the universe every single night for every past experience that I have had whether it be good or bad. Because I needed every valley to make my mountain top, taste better. Remember what you give to yourself, you give to others. This is true for compassion, kindness, consideration, sensitivity, empathy, and forgiveness. When you can actually give these to yourself, you are much more able to give them to others. Here is a mini exercise you can do right now to forgive yourself for any mistake you have made in the past: Rockstar Forgiveness Visualization Choose one thing you would like to forgive yourself for. Close your eyes. Imagine stepping into your child self and standing before your adult self now. Say in your minds eye, "I need forgiveness with ___________________________. I am sorry. Please forgive me. I love you. Thank you." Now rise above and see yourself going into your higher self as a bright white light. Imagine looking down from above on your adult self and your child self. Now imagine seeing the situation you need forgiveness with playing on a big screen. Watch the situation happening and see the situation playing out in black and white. Watch it happen in slow motion. Now, what's the biggest lesson from this particular situation? What was the universe, God, your heart, (Whatever you call it based on your beliefs) trying to show you with this mistake you made? Now see the movie screen freeze. Take a deep breathe in for 4 seconds through your nose and breathe out for a count of 8 seconds. Imagine as you breathe out this situation starts to become smaller and smaller. Continue to breathe in and out like this until you see this situation melt and dissolve into the bright burning sun. Now go back into your child self. You are a child asking for forgiveness. Now go back into your adult self. imagine your adult self, coming to your child self and bending down on one knee. Hug your child self heart to heart. Then look deeply into the child's eyes and say, "My biggest lesson with this is ______________________. I now understand and embrace this lesson. I am grateful for this lesson. I forgive myself, I forgive anyone involved in this situation and I love myself." Imagine the child self beaming and smiling at you. It hugs you once more and dissolves into your being because you still have that inner child within you. Allow the forgiveness to take hold with you. Feel it deeply. Do not be surprised if some emotions start to come here. Feel it, allow it to flow and release it. CLICK HERE TO GET CAROLYN RIM'S 99 Day Meditation Dare Visualizations to help you get over it and create a life beyond your wildest dreams! Strengthening and building your self-worth isn’t easy, but these are practical tips and steps that can guide you in starting the process. If you have shattered self-worth, and you would like to work with a coach with a proven track record... email me at [email protected]. I would love to help you awaken to your truth and make your dreams come true! It's never too late to build yourself back up and to feel good about you! YOU ARE WORTHY AND DESERVING OF LOVE! Sending you High Fives, Hugs, & Pattern Breaking Ass Slaps, Carolyn Rim Founder of Spark Your Rockstar, LLC Website: www.SparkYourRockstar.com Email: [email protected] Phone: (610)751-1664 Join the Rockstars of 1000's of people making dreams come true in the SPARK YOUR ROCKSTAR COMMUNITY: www.facebook.com/groups/sparkenergy 99 Day Dare To help you finally GET THE OVER IT, Forgive Yourself & Them, & MAKE YOUR DREAMS COME TRUE
I will be releasing my newest meditation course on my brand spanking new membership site! RIGHT NOW YOU CAN GET THE EARLY ROCKSTAR SPECIAL AND SAVE SOME Moo-LAH by pre-ordering! Here's the deal. You will continue to have the same experiences over and over and over again until you change your beliefs on how you are looking at your life and the past mistakes you made. You see, we all make mistakes in life, and they are the greatest teachers on the planet. Think about your biggest challenge right now. Thats were the opportunity for your greatest evolution lies my rockstars friends. Do you really believe holding yourself in the self imposed purgatory in your mind and continuing to relive past mistakes over and over and over again will somehow "pay" for your past mistakes? Let me tell you something, torturing yourself in your mind (because continuing to relive past traumas and mistakes that you made and that others have made over and over and over again in your mind is fucking damn near insanity) yet we have all done it. All of us. Me included my little gorgeous love popsicles. All of us have. Here is the way the universe works. You all about to get schooled rockstar style so pay attention right now and read these next words carefully. Allow them to saturate your subconscious mind like water to a sponge. Your past mistakes were lessons and unless you learn the lesson from them you will continue to have that same situation repeat itself over and over and over again in your life. DAMNNNNNNN Carolyn!! That was DEEP! (lol That's what she said...) Continuing on, Have you ever made a mistake and said to yourself, "Whats wrong with me? I should have known better,"? Well if you have, you are not alone and there is a reason you say that because really, you should have know better but because you didn't learn from the past mistakes, so you just continue on in a rinse and repeat cycle of bullshit repeating the same experience in different forms over and over again. Rockstars, it all stops here. Yup. No more beating yourself up for past mistakes. No more wasting time on what other people think about you! No more wasting time!!! OW OW OW! Yes I just howled! GET EXCITED WITH ME! If you can learn this, imagine how different your life would be! Can you imagine not allowing the past to ever hurt you again? Can you imagine not having to carry around that heavy suitcase of guilt, backpack of shame, the whole kit and caboodle of emotions that don't serve you? LITERALLY ... All your relationships in your life and all your future relationships will instantly change when make this 2mm shift! It changes everything and ripples outwardly like a stone thrown into a pond! IMAGINE LOOKING AT MISTAKES AS GIFTS! OH MY GOD! RIGHT?! MISTAKES ARE GIFTS? YES YES YES!!! ALL YOUR PAST MISTAKES, AND MISTAKES THAT OTHERS HAVE MADE, AREOPPORTUNITES FOR YOUR GROWTH! Imagine becominggrateful for EVERY PAST EXPERIENCE IN YOUR LIFE? I MEAN... EVERY SINGLE ONE OF THEM! IMAGINE NOW IN YOUR MIND THANKING THE PERSON WHO HURT YOU BECAUSE YOU LEARNED THE LESSON AND BECAUSE IT MADE YOU WHO YOU ARE TODAY? IMAGINE WISHING THEM LOVE AND SUCCESS? IMAGINE FORGIVING YOURSELF FOR PAST MISTAKES AND NEVER HAVING TO SECOND GUESS OR DOUBT IT AGAIN? IMAGINE HOW DIFFERENTLY YOU WOULD INTERACT WITH OTHERS NOW THAT YOU CHANGED YOUR BELIEF AND THOUGHTS ON PAST MISTAKES? Are you getting excited, now that you have this valuable information on how to look at past mistakes and situations? Whether you need to forgive yourself or you need to forgive another person who hurt you, its one of the most important acts you could ever do for your future so those same past mistakes do not continue on repeat in your life. Forgiveness is mainly for your benefit, not for the other person you are forgiving. With that said, I do believe forgiveness has a ripple affect on others and the world. However, as long as you are feeling like a victim, you are carrying a heavy burden. Forgiveness allows you to put the burden down. Put that shit down rockstars! And simply walk away from it. Completely FREE. This feeling you will feel is a state of pure bliss. "I'm walking on sunshine... Ohhhh ohhhh!" Now you will have that song stuck in your head all day long, your welcome! :) Embark on a journey – with Carolyn Rim's 99 Day Dare Visualizations to help you finally get over it, forgive yourself & them, & make your dreams come true! WAIT THATS NOT ALL... By ordering the rockstar course today, you will get two bonus's absolutely FREE! YUP! ALLOW THAT EXCITEMENT TO CONTINUE TO BUILD.... Wait for it... Wait for it... Now, SMILE. Shake your ass and follow me into neverland to make all our dreams come true! Let the rockstar unicorn magic begin! CLICK HERE |
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